Within Marriage

What is the Law of Chastity for married couples?

·         In an interview found on the church website we learn that there is not a finish line to the Law of Chastity.  https://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?locale=0&sourceId=53537befabc20110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&vgnextoid=c3dcf4b13819d110VgnVCM1000003a94610aRCRD

·         A recommended book when I was engaged was: Between Husband and Wife by Stephen E. Lamb and Douglas E. Brinley.  This book answers a lot of questions that this couple has. In it I learned some important principles. President Kimball said in the May 1974 Ensign that, “Even in marriages there can be some excesses and distortions.  No amount of rationalization to the contrary can satisfy a disappointed Father in Heaven.”  In a General priesthood meeting President N. Eldon Tanner (1978) said, “There are evil and degrading practices which, in the world, are not only condoned but encouraged.  Sometimes married couples in their intimate expression of love to one another are drawn into practices that are unholy, unworthy, and unnatural.  We receive letters from time to time asking for a definition of “unnatural” or “unworthy.” Brethren, you know the answer to that. If in doubt at all, don’t do it.”

Is anything and everything okay behind closed doors?

·         No- refer to quote above by President N. Eldon Tanner.

·         President Boyd K. Packer said; “I must include a caution to you who are married.  A couple may be tempted to introduce things into (their) relationship which are unworthy.  Do not, as the scriptures warn, “change the natural use into that which is against nature,” (Rom. 1:26).  If you do, the tempter will drive a wedge between you.  If something unworthy has become part of your relationship, don’t ever do it again! Now, what exactly do I mean by that?  You know what I mean by that.”

·         President Kimball said:  “If it us unnatural you just don’t do it.  That is all, and all the family life should be kept clean and worthy and on a very high plane.  There are some people who have said that behind the bedroom doors anything goes.  That is not true and the Lord would not condone it.”

What is the connection between the physical and spiritual in a intimate relationship?

·         There is every connection between the physical and spiritual in an intimate relationship.  Elder Robert D Hales says:  “An eternal bod doesn’t just happen as a result of sealing covenants we make in the temple.  How we conduct ourselves in this life will determine what we will be in all the eternities to come.  To receive the blessings of the sealing that our Heavenly Faather has given to us, we hve to keep the commandments and conduct ourselves in such a way that our families will want to live with us in the eternities.”